Wednesday, August 14, 2013

A terrible, horrible, no good, very bad kind of day

Today was one of those days, and in a mood, I looked up the book on Wikipedia. As I was reading through the paragraph detailing the list of things that went wrong for Alexander during his horrible day, it reminded me of something important. When I was losing all my weight, I spent great deal of time working on the negative thought patterns going on inside my head. They were causing me to make not-so-great decisions and that had to change. One of the most important ones for me was the way I reacted to what I perceived to be negative occurrences that were out of my locus of control.
The most important words in that last sentence were reacted, perceived and control.

Oftentimes I find myself becoming distressed when something I don't have direct control over doesn't go exactly as expected. Simple human interaction is an excellent example of this; you never have control over what a person says about you. Depending upon the situation, a gut reaction might be correct. However, I've found that most of the time it's wiser to spend the mental energy on what you do have control over: your reaction. If that means you have to step away and go for a walk or do something that removes you from that situation, then that's exactly what you should do.

And for me, that doesn't only apply to interacting with the general populace. It's a life philosophy that works in all aspects, from my eating habits to my marriage. Which can only mean that most of today was a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad kind of day because I let it be one. The things that were bothering me weren't serious or life altering.

It didn't have to be, and it doesn't need to continue to be.

With that, I'll make the choice to smile, forget about it and go eat the Sarah special at Chipotle.