Wednesday, February 16, 2011

It's not a diet; it's a lifetime commitment.

There was a post recently on the CalorieKing forums discussing how rude some of the members of other weight loss forums can be when people post.  Ultimately, I can see both sides of the coin on this one; the poster is looking for help and gets snapped at and the responder is sick and tired of answering the same questions over and over again.

Personally, I'm not a big post-responder on the forums.  Mostly because I have a rather tough love, no nonsense approach to weight loss and maintenance. To that end, I'm going to put a few points out there that may offend (or not, I don't really know) about how I feel towards most things weight related.

Put your big boy or girl britches on and take responsibility for your actions in life. No one is making you overeat except yourself. The CEO of whatever fast food joint you're currently eating at isn't making you eat there. You're choosing to eat there. You have the power to choose. You have the power to make informed decisions. You have the power to stop the negative cycles. Learn to love it and utilize it. This leads me to my next point.

Just do it.

Seriously.

JUST DO IT.

Yes, it's hard.

Yes, it requires dedication, perseverance, persistence and patience.

Will it ever get easier? Maybe, but only time will bear the fruit of this labor of love. And that's exactly what this is, a labor of love. You must love yourself enough to care about your health and well-being. No one else can or will do that for you.

Abandon your preconceived notions about the things you've tried in the past, be it exercise or a food, and try them again with an open mind.  If you still hate them, there's always alternatives. You are the only person setting your limits.  Only you can hold yourself back in this journey.

Stop comparing yourself to other successful losers or maintainers. I'm serious, quit it. It does you absolutely no good.  You aren't them; they aren't you. Everyone takes their own route to the end goal, who gives a rat's bottom what the other people did? Weight loss is about you, not your friend, not some random person in a magazine, and certainly not some random person on the internet. Focus on you.

Pick yourself up and dust yourself off when you fall down. Don't expect someone to come rescue you or pat you on the head and say, "You can do it."

Be strong, be focused, be the best version of you that you can be.